Day of the Dead: Celebrating Death and Life
November 1, 2009

Reverend Dr. Barbara Coeyman

The theme of mystery has come up in various ways lately, especially as we feel this seasonal turn of the earth toward the colder and darker. As the earth becomes more veiled in darkness, we enter a mysterious part of the year.

Our worship focus this month is ‘mystery:’ the mystery that is the cycle of birth, life, and death; or, as our Call to Worship identified this cycle, a cycle of the known and the unknown. The mystery of this life cycle is at the core of what it means to be religious. As the Rev. Forrest Church, who died about a month ago, once explained, ‘religion’ is that cultural experience that is the human response to the awareness of being alive and the reality of dying. Our worship theme of mystery this month is really about the religious journey of life and death.

This week I attended a two-day retreat for ministers that was called a ‘seasonal retreat,’ focused at this time of year on autumn. The retreat was organized around the notion that spirituality is influenced by the natural cycles of the earth. We are influenced by seasonal cycles when we block out special time such as for retreats, as well as in our daily routines. We are aware of the seasonal cycles. Here we are today on November 1, half way through autumn. On this first day of a new month, we here at CUUC join with many other religious people around the world in this ageless seasonal ritual of the Day of the Dead.

This half-way point in autumn is in some sense a nowhere point. We are halfway between the life that was the harvest and the death that will be the frozen ground. We are in this liminal space, as it is called. This is a border zone. A transitioning point like this is an important place in our spiritual life. We have come from life, with the fruits of the harvest perhaps still evident on our tables and in our refrigerators, but we are also able to look ahead toward winter’s dormancy and quiet. On a hump like this, we may feel unsettled because of the vagueness of where we are: some days the weather is warm and hints of more growth, but other days it is cold, heading for the unknown winter still before us. This time of year usually is an unsettled point in terms of weather and also perhaps in our personal lives. However, periods of unsettlement also carry the potential for hope because of new insights and directions we can find by living in these border land places.

Thus, it has come to be in many cultures around the world that November 1 is a time to create rituals involving life and death. Being about life and death, these rituals help us assess this mystery that is the religious quest. These rituals may mark a period of uncertainty, but they also offer comfort at this time when rational belief can be suspended as ghosts and goblins emerge through our contemplation of the mystery.

How any given culture responds to the subject of death is conditioned in part by its theology of death. That is, our cultural practices are influenced by our religious attitudes toward death. In western culture, it has been relatively recently --- largely in the twentieth century --- that the ‘end of life’ process has been detached from the home and put into special places, often clinical ones such as hospitals. Death has become detached from life in a way that previous generations did not know, perhaps because death is not compatible with one of our most popular theologies, a ‘theology’ of progress, always onward and upward. It seems that we moderns hope that we can outrun death, or at least avoid it, by passing it on to medical specialists.

So in many instances we have taken on a detachment from death, at best, and perhaps a fear of death. Most primitive cultures around the world were much more accepting of life and death as part of same cycle. Thus, in these cultures, death was not to be so feared. Our ceremony today in this worship service, based on ancient practice, can help re-unite us with death as a comforting part of life.

There are many explanations for the modern attitude toward staying detached from death. Perhaps some of this shift in attitudes toward death, at least in American culture, actually started as early as the mid-nineteenth century. For example, a recent study of death called This Republic of Suffering by Drew Gilpin Faust, the recently named president of Harvard University, examines how death was regarded in the Civil War. Faust’s premise is that the over 600,000 deaths in the Civil Way altered significantly both the way in which Americans understood death as well as their notion of a benevolent God. Death in that war touched the life of the living in such significant ways. Gilpin Faust’s study challenges us Americans to examine our comfort levels with such large numbers of dead and wounded in current wars around the globe.

In our free religious way, our theology certainly influences our relationship with death. I suspect that for many of us, our close connections with the earth as a source of spirituality helps us regard death not only as a natural but a necessary part of life. Our liberal sense of ‘afterlife’ then is the good deeds, the good work that we leave behind after we are gone. These attitudes toward death help us approach death nobly, as Forrest Church did.

Our free attitudes toward death also open us to practicing rituals taken from pagan cultures such as the Day of the Dead ceremony. These festivities are not lugubrious. They do not originate in a place of fear or detachment from death, but instead in a place of celebration and connection with departed loved ones. These festivities create a time between this world and the otherworld so that the living and the dead can meet. These encounters take on many guises and include a variety of habits such as offerings of food to the dead to keep them happy, or disguises of the true identity of the living if we anticipate any distress from the dead. These disguises also open the door to all sorts of mischief because our true identities are covered up: acting out without getting caught, relieving tensions without revealing identities. In being able to go to these borderland areas, we experience the merging of known and unknown, and perhaps open doorways to personal and religious transformation.

So we of liberal faith join a long tradition of ancient Pagan and Christian festivities around life and death. Let us review some of these celebrations. Among pagans, ancient Celts marked the end of the growing season with a festival called Samhain, which included the slaughter of animals and the harvesting of grains. On this day that marked a New Year, warfare also ceased and leases on land could be renewed. As long as five thousand years ago, ancient Babylonians and Egyptians held similar festivals. Egyptians honored the goddess Isis and her search for her dead husband Osiris, Lord of the underworld. Her search for him is a story repeated in many other cultures, this story of the retrieval of the dead from down under, back to life on earth. It is the subject of several modern operas, and, I suspect, many TV soaps. In Europe, Finns and other northerners recognized the end of the agricultural season and the start of winter. One Finnish festival, Kekri, included a jump into a heated sauna, a nice touch that we here in Colorado might be inspired to include in our Day of the Dead ceremonies.

Likewise, the early Christian church developed parallel rituals that may have been directly borrowed from the Pagans. By the fourth century, Christians came to honor many who were martyred for the cause of Christianity, and then came to recognize other saints: the virgin Mary, St. Peter, St. Paul, and more. So that by the year 800, Christianity included an annual festival called ‘All Saints Day’ on November 1, not un-coincidentally at the same time of year as the many pagan festivals.

It wasn’t enough for Christians to recognize their Saints. Honoring common-folk who had died was also important. Thus, All Souls day also entered the Christian calendar. In some locales, All Souls Day was a holding opportunity for souls who had not yet been fully cleansed of sins. Since they were not yet ready to enter heaven, they could spend some time in Purgatory, with interventions from the living for that final boost into heaven. To assist the trip, some cultures left out soul cakes for the journey, and lights of various sorts were left on. One English culture lighted turnips carved with scary goblin faces.Did you ever realize how Halloween is indeed a religious experience, not only because of how the managers of unnamed merchandise marts worship what’s got to be huge spikes in cash register receipts at this time of year!

Remembering the dead in religious ritual is not only a thing of the past. Rituals continue in contemporary life. Samhain continues to be a popular festival for Wiccans around the world. Just yesterday the New York Times carried a story about one Michael York, a retired professor in Narragansett, Rhode Island, who planned to celebrate not Halloween but Samhain by lighting candles on his home altar and invoking names of loved ones who have died.

Additionally modern Buddhists and Taoists in China, Korea, Japan, and more, continue to celebrate various renditions of All Souls Day. In Hindu tradition, there is a Festival of Lights called Diwali, and Kali, the creator, preserver, and destroyer goddess, is one of the favorite Hindu deities at this time of year.

Another means of remembering the dead in contemporary culture is ancestor worship, which is somewhat different from these various religious rituals I’ve been describing. Ancestor worship addresses not deities who have universal identity or coverage but common persons of more local significance, such as biological families, tribes, and villages. Ancestor worship also includes the honoring of living elders, a practice that modern culture could probably benefit from doing more of. Ancestor worship occurs today literally all around the world: in Africa, Indonesia, China, the British Isles, Slavic countries, among Hope and Pueblo nations; and more. Ancestor worship is a way to remember loved ones beyond the grave. One day each of us will be someone’s ancestor. How do you want to be remembered by those who come after you? Writing down some attributes or gifts by which you want to be remembered might be a useful exercise.

We in liberal faith can also engage in a different type of ancestor worship, perhaps more properly called ancestor study, through knowing our ancestors in Unitarian Universalist history. I have an ancestral soul mate that I’ve told you about before: a minister name Mary, whom I never met in person because she died over one hundred years ago. Nevertheless, Mary inspires me everyday of my ministry. I ‘met’ Mary in the sense that when I was in seminary in Texas I studied about the early history of Unitarians and Universalists in that state. Now, I don’t put out soul cakes for Mary --- I’m not even sure I’d even do that for the likes of ancestors such as Ralph Waldo Emerson or Margaret Fuller --- but I do encourage all of us to learn more of our UU history as a way of keeping in touch with ancestors. To that end, may I remind you of our adult education course on UU History and Heritage starting tomorrow evening. I invite each of you to consider taking this class: All Saints and All Souls of UU History.

There is one more modern festival to mention. El Dia de los Muertos, the Day of the Dead, is celebrated in Mexico and other Latin American countries. Combining Catholic with indigenous traditions, in church and in the home, it generally lasts two days: November 1 for remembering children and November 2 for adults. Rev. Peter Morales, just past minister at neighboring Jefferson Unitarian Church, grew up in Hispanic culture in Texas. He hopes we Unitarian Universalists do not overlook the Day of the Dead. He wrote: “We can easily miss the profound spiritual and psychological insight that makes this celebration powerful. A Mexican boy spending the night at this uncle’s grave has a connection across time with his forebears that our children do not.... (Today) We are connected by the World Wide Web, cell phones, and cable TV, [but] traditional cultures, with their mediums and ghosts and reincarnations, have understood intuitively something we’ve repressed: the dead don’t die, they live on.”

Day of the Dead ceremonies can include burning incense and flower petals to create a fragrant path for the dead, special foods and breads, or candles, all of which you will see in our ceremony here in a few moments. Leftover food might be taken to cemeteries for hungry ancestors, or to community food banks.

In a few moments we will begin our ceremony. I invite you to bring photos if you have any to the altar, and to light candles and, if you wish, name persons you are remembering.

We come to church for many reasons. We are drawn to exploring life’s mysteries: why are we born, what do we do with this process called life, what death is all about? Our liberal faith provides many doors through which we can welcome those who came before us, many rituals that can take us into borderland spaces where living and dead meet. May we all remember to risk visiting the borderlands, and when we come back, may we return with new insights into this process of living and dying.

MAY THIS BE SO

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